The Power of Asking Good Questions
So much of our self-confidence lies in our ability to manage out emotional state and our focus. Tony Robbins is a master at this.
He shares his techniques in his series of books and mp3’s.
In Notes from a Friend, Robbins discusses the power of asking yourself good questions to put you in an empowered state.
He tells the story of how he ran into a friend one day in New York.
The friend was a prominent attorney who was upset because his business partner had just left the firm, taking many of the best clients with him.
Robbins took the lawyer from a state of upset to a state where he was excited about the new possibilities this brought up for him.
The man decided on the spot to move his office to Connecticut, which he had always wanted to do, and bring his son into the business with him. The lawyer was thrilled with these new prospects. All this came about through Tony Robbins asking a series of powerful, focused, state-changing questions.
In Notes from a Friend he reveals three sets of power questions. The first set, The Problem-Solving Questions, is designed to improve your state when focusing on problems.
Problem-Solving Questions
1. What is great about this problem?
2. What is not perfect yet?
3. What am I willing to do to make it the way I want it?
4. What am I willing to no longer do in order to make it the way I want it?
5. How can I enjoy the process while I do what is necessary to make it the way I want it?
Robbins gives us two more sets of questions, morning questions designed to make us feel good all day, and evening questions to end our days in a positive state:
Morning Questions
1. What am I happy about in my life right now? What about that makes me happy?
2. What am I excited about in my life right now? What about that makes me excited? How does that make me feel?
3. What am I proud of in my life right now? What about that makes me proud? How does that make me feel?
4. What am I grateful for in my life right now? What about that makes me grateful? How does that make me feel?
5. What am I enjoying most in my life right now? What about that do I enjoy? How does that make me feel?
6. What am I committed to in my life right now? What about that makes me committed? How does that make me feel?
7. Who do I love? Who loves me? What about that makes me loving? How does that make me feel?
Evening Questions
1. What have I given today? In what ways have I been a giver today?
2. What did I learn today?
3. How has today added to the quality of my life? How can I use today as an investment in my future?