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Self Discipline In Your Personal Life

Written By: docmac - Dec• 14•17

6 Key Examples Of Self-Discipline In Your Personal Life

Self-discipline is a character trait that most people admire. As a personality feature, it isn’t something you are simply born with. Self-discipline is trained over time. One of the easiest ways to train yourself to have greater discipline is to mirror the examples of self-discipline in other people.

If you’re not sure what self-discipline traits that other people have, it’s ok. Many people have a hard time identifying what elements make up self-discipline. Here are six examples of self-discipline that people have in their personal lives and that you can mirror to develop your own disciplined life.

Create Realistic and Adjustable Goals

For some reason when people set goals, they think that they need to be set in stone. The problem is that we rarely know how much effort it is going to take to meet the goal, until we are already in the middle of our progress.

An example given on a personal success blog: if you want to write a book, and you set yourself up to write 5000 words a day, you’re likely to burn out. Setting small goals that can change as you progress will help you achieve the bigger goal.

Instead of forcing themselves to write 5000 words a day, a person with good self-discipline would start small, like 240 words, and then when it is too easy they add more to the daily target. Self-discipline involves constant evaluation.

Stabilize Your Energy

People with high levels of self-discipline like to have consistent energy levels. If you have steady energy, you can better budget your time and energy. Most people can achieve this clean energy state by avoiding insulin spikes and watching their caffeine intake. A popular self-development blog points out that this may be a bit of a catch-22 as it already takes self-discipline to watch what you eat and drink in the first place.

Sleep

Don’t fall into the trap of thinking less sleep will make you more productive. Sleep connects directly to our impulse control. Our hormones and cognitive functions are all connected to proper sleep. Self-disciplined people make sure they get enough sleep daily.

Remove Temptation

Most self-disciplined people remove the temptations for their lives. Whether you are trying to avoid social media to get more work done, create a budget, or stop smoking. Removing temptation will be the quickest way to help develop the discipline needed to avoid the objects that are keeping you from your goal.

Long Term Thinking

One thing that highly disciplined people have is an ability to think in terms of the end game. Long-term thinking allows you to achieve your goals. Gratification delay is a key factor in success.

A personal development blog, Dumb Little Man, highlights this with the example of going to the gym. While the daily task may not appeal to the undisciplined, those who are successful don’t look at the daily task. They look at the end result.

Honesty

The final and hardest factor in developing self-discipline is honesty. Being brutally honest about your successes and failures is the only way that you can improve on the next project or attempt. It is easy to gloss over your failures. This common tendency to ignore our faults is not the best. Self-discipline is the ability to be honest about your actions or behavior even when that honesty may hurt you.

If you have any of these traits, chances are you have some level of self-discipline already. If you have all of these traits, you are probably a very disciplined person. Don’t worry if these habits seem foreign to you. Self-discipline is difficult. If it was, everyone would do it.

Practice incorporating these things into your daily life. Get more sleep, eat healthier, become honest and realistic about yourself. If you can do these things, the rest is easy as pie.

Report- Taking Massive Action

Written By: docmac - Dec• 14•17

Have you ever gotten really fired up about something? Your motivation is super-high, there are simply no thoughts about failure, and you are absolutely certain that you will be able to achieve some type of goal. You take action, and you are so stoked at the beginning of this process that you are a powerful engine of focused activity. Your efforts to reach your goal begin to produce results… initially.

Then something happens.

All that energy created by motivation gets burned up pretty quickly. You lose focus, and before long, the goal you were so motivated to accomplish has been forgotten or ignored.

Why does this happen? Why does motivation often give way to poor efforts, a lack of energy and focus, poor planning and an “I’ll do it tomorrow” attitude? Why do driven people have such a hard time achieving the results they desire, especially when their motivation and energy is so high at the beginning of a process?

Sometimes the problem is procrastination.

That “I’ll do it tomorrow” mindset is easy to adopt. For whatever reason, many people are intrinsically lazy. This is not a knock on you or anyone else. It is just a common fact. Humans are not living a daily fight for survival like our cave-dwelling ancestors were. Most of us have a roof over our head, pantries and refrigerators full of food, climate control, a constant, clean water supply and something that hasn’t been around for more than 95% of human history… physical comfort.

That leads many to believe that there is no need to rock the boat when our basic needs are being met.

This thought pattern is the fuel for procrastination. Why do something today when you can put it off until tomorrow? Rather than working hard on something you want to achieve, why not spend the day at the beach? Surely, putting off some task for one or two days is not going to keep it from getting accomplished, right?

The entire process that moves you from motivation to procrastination and then no activity at all is quite common. This is because procrastinating can kill motivation, but renewed motivation can in turn destroy procrastination, and lead to a desired set of results.

This special report will show you exactly how to consistently take massive action while staying highly motivated and ignoring your natural tendency to procrastinate. You will learn that you can truly achieve great things when you use tools, formulas and systems proven to keep you on the right track to achieving a certain goal. We will explore the very real and very serious dangers of procrastination, and explain scientifically proven ways to stop procrastinating and start taking action.

You will discover how to set goals so they are achievable, as well as the difference between intrinsic and extrinsic motivation. Finally, you will learn how to create more time so you can work on those things that are important to you, and several ways to stay motivated and clearly focused on a goal or activity. Let’s start wiping procrastination out of your life by taking a look at exactly why humans have such an unshakable tendency to put things off until tomorrow, or some later date.

Why Do We Procrastinate?

Science tells us that human beings may procrastinate as a survival tactic. When you put things off, it is often times because you are content and happy with your current state of being. You may not have everything you want and desire, but you have what you need.

The mindset here goes back to the earliest humans. When one of your Paleolithic ancestors found a warm, dry cave that was near a water supply, and there was enough food nearby to keep him alive but not thriving, he happily accepted that is a lifestyle that was good enough.

Some of the others in his tribe told tales of a valley with luscious greenery, endless fruit trees, more wild game than could ever be hunted or consumed, and underground springs that produced unlimited clear, cool and drinkable water. This Shangri-La I had multiple caves and was perfect in every way, but the journey there was difficult and dangerous, and may take months.
Although the reward was incredibly high, your “my current life is okay with me” ancestor always made excuses for not trekking to the land of his dreams. He was adequately secure and safe right where he was, so his idea was to put off until tomorrow or next week sitting down and discussing a journey to this once-in-a-lifetime land with the rest of his tribemates.

There was something else he desired a great deal, but since he was basically okay, he continually procrastinated.

Psychology today agrees with this idea. They say procrastination is a way of dealing with negative emotions like failure, uncertainty and fear. The idea is that if someone puts off taking action, then they can’t fail. Some people even procrastinate because they have an unconscious fear of success and winning. Some people who procrastinate do so because they are concerned about what others think of them. They would rather be perceived as effortless rather than incapable.

Some psychologists believe procrastination is a learned behavior. If you spend time with people who support your procrastinating behavior, you are likely to make excuses rather than take action. While some psychologists and mental health experts disagree on exactly why humans are so prone to procrastination, they will all agree that the dangers of procrastinating are very real, and can be very serious.

The Dangers of Procrastinating – Why We Have to Overcome It

Putting things off from time to time may not cause too many problems in your life. On the other hand, chronic procrastination can consistently jack up your stress levels, lower your self-esteem and even cause severe mental and physical health problems. Here are a few dangers of procrastinating you should remember the next time you are thinking about delaying some action or task you know you need to be doing today.

You Lose Time

Odds are you already feel like you don’t have enough hours in the day. Why procrastinate, and make the situation even worse? The most fleeting and valuable commodity you have is time. Procrastinators often look up with deadlines staring them in the face at the last minute and think, “Where did all the time go?” When you have to fly around at the last minute trying to cram 2 or 3 days’ worth of work into a few hours because you have been procrastinating, you realize that you have wasted precious time that you can’t get back.

You Pay an Opportunity Cost

Any time you do one thing, you are costing yourself the opportunity to do something else. But putting things off until later, when later finally arrives and you absolutely must take action, this doesn’t allow you to be free in case a wonderful opportunity arises.

You Never Realize Your Full Potential

Studies show that if you procrastinate once, you will do it twice. Procrastinate a couple of times, and you begin to plan procrastination into your regular routine. The people who create their dream realities make effective use of their time.

When you waste time and put things off, the results you finally achieve are watered down and rushed. Everyone has incredible potential inside them, and when you lazily and continually “wait till later”, you kill your inner desire to better yourself in one way or another. This means you rob yourself of living the greatest and most fulfilled life that you possibly can.

You Sabotage Your Career and Relationships

Procrastination is the enemy of efficiency and productivity. When you put things off in the workplace, you kill your chances of advancement. When you consistently procrastinate in a relationship, you are telling the important people in your life that you simply don’t care. This means you run the risk of damaging, or even permanently ruining, relationships that are important to you.

You Crush Your Self-Esteem

Low self-esteem and procrastination are comfortable bedfellows. When you put things off and put things off until you have to rush around at the end and get them done, you feel bad about yourself. You wonder, “Why can’t I just do what I need to do?” You ask yourself, “Why can’t I take action in the pursuit of things that are so important to me?”

This leads to thoughts that you deserve failure, since you must obviously be programmed for poor performance and a lack of motivation. This low level of self-belief and self-esteem leads to more procrastination, and a very unhealthy mental cycle develops. Negative emotions like self-hatred and self-doubt create stress, and stress is at the cornerstone of all chronic disease. It is in this way that…

…Procrastination Can Kill You

You may think that statement is a little harsh or “over-the-top”. Actually, it isn’t. People who procrastinate constantly make poor decisions. You put off going to that doctor’s appointment, justifying your decision by saying that you probably will not be able to afford his bill. You find excuses for putting off exercising all the time. You know you should eat better, but you can always start your new diet tomorrow.

Aside from the poor mental health that comes from a lack of self-esteem, procrastination can lead to physical health problems that have serious consequences. Put off taking care of your physical health for years, and you increase the odds that you will die from a serious illness or disease.

Tools and Techniques for Overcoming Procrastination at Work and in Life

There are plenty of applications and techniques for overcoming procrastination. You can avoid the all too common tendency to put things off with the following tools and goal achievement best practices.

Procraster – This app helps you uncover the most basic reason you are procrastinating. It also tracks personal productivity and provides motivational fuel.

Stand Up – Standing instead of sitting boosts mental energy. When you sit for extended periods of time, the pressure on your thighs and your rear end slows your circulation. This means less oxygen gets to your brain, which naturally leads to poorer focus and concentration.

Practice Self-Control – SelfControl is an application that allows you to block distractions for a certain period of time. You can list websites you want to block access to for certain time blocks, and even if you give into the distracting urge to go to one of the sites you have blocked, SelfControl will not let you.

Listen to Some White Noise – White Noise is an application that delivers noises and sounds proven to boost focus and concentration.

Get Checker Plus for Google Calendar – The Checker Plus app tells you how much time you have left before some task needs to be completed, it stays on your screen constantly, so you can stay motivated and fight procrastination with a quick glance.

Create a Game Plan – Sometimes you procrastinate because you don’t have a solid plan of what you should be doing. Create a plan that has achievable action steps you need to complete each day to reach your desired goal.

Develop Routines and SOPs – An SOP is a Standard Operating Procedure, a specific way of doing a certain thing. It doesn’t allow for distraction or procrastination, because it tells you exactly what steps you need to be taking to reach a certain result.

Routine has been proven to put your goal achievement efforts on autopilot. After practicing the same routine on a daily basis for a few weeks, your conscious efforts become unconscious habits that lead you in the direction of your goal.

4 Ways Science Has Proven Effective for Eliminating Procrastination

Are you the type of person that needs facts and figures before you will believe something? If so, you will appreciate the following 5 scientifically proven methods that can help you stop procrastinating and start taking action.

1 – Attach a Financial Penalty to Failure

Head over to the website StickK. That site allows you to set aside an amount of money you will lose if you do not reach a specific goal in a desired time. Psychologists agree that financial loss is an excellent motivator for achieving goals. At StickK you get to choose where your money goes, to what institution, business or charitable organization, if you fail.

2 – Turn a Huge Goal into A Lot Of Small Ones

You didn’t get out of shape in one day. You didn’t reach financial ruin in a single day, probably. There are a lot of small, consistent and daily activities that caused whatever situation you are trying to escape. Accordingly, it has been proven that chopping up a large, long-term goal into many smaller, bite-size pieces makes it more achievable. If you want to benefit from some result in one year, turn it into 365 daily activities.

3 – Learn to Forgive Yourself

A study reported at ScienceDirect.com shows that self-blame and punishment is counterproductive to goal achievement. If you stumble on the way to success, forgive yourself immediately, brush yourself off, and do something that gets you back on the right path.

4 – Fantasize… The Right Way

Constantly dreaming about some marvelous reality has been proven to reduce the odds that you will ever experience it. However, there is a right way to fantasize. When you think of achieving some marvelous goal, and you also think about the steps you need to achieve it, your success rate skyrockets.

For example, if you dream of being slim and trim and you are currently overweight, every time you think about being thin, see yourself eating healthy food, exercising regularly, avoiding processed food and getting plenty of rest each night.

How to Set Big Goals That Really Matter to You, But Are Still Achievable

Any goal should challenge you, but it should also be achievable. Think about it. If you set a goal to simply crawl out of bed in the morning, that is not a difficult task to accomplish. Accordingly, you don’t feel much of a sense of accomplishment when you achieve it. When you create a reality in your life, and it was difficult and challenging to do so, you have a great sense of pride and achievement.

Big but Reasonable and Realistic

This is why you should always make your goals big. However, you should operate in a goal-setting process where you are honest with yourself. If you are 70 years old, regardless what shape you are in, you are probably not going to compete in the next Olympics as a gymnast. On the other hand, you could set a goal to win a medal in a gymnastics competition for your age class.

What Do You Value?

Another important step to take when setting a big goal is to make sure it matches your sense of values. If you want to stop drinking alcohol for the many health benefits abstinence offers, but you highly value spending happy hour with your friends at the local sports bar, your goal and your actions are at cross purposes.

Set One Goal of Time

You probably want to change several things about your life. Write them all down. Find out the one that will make the biggest impact on your life, and pursue that goal and that goal only until you have achieve it. Multitasking by chasing several goals at once virtually guarantees failure.

Be Honest with Yourself

This tip goes back to your core values. If you set a goal to meditate daily because you hear it is such an excellent stress-beater, but meditating doesn’t “fit” who you are, are you really going to do it? Be honest with yourself about the goals you set, review your goals frequently, and remove or tweak any goal that doesn’t match your personality and actions. Speaking of personality …

How Your Personality Affects Your Motivation to Achieve

Once upon a time there was a man who loved to think. He loved to study and pursue knowledge, and learn new things. He was not physically strong and capable, and would rather spend the day reading than being physically active. He also wanted to be wealthy.

He stumbled across a manual labor job that paid pretty good money, and offered unlimited overtime and bonus pay. He excitedly went to work performing backbreaking labor 16 hours every day. At first he was ecstatic, because he was earning so much money. Before long though, he quit the job, since it did not challenge his brain.

This is an example of understanding your personality and “who you are”. Remember that it is difficult to change who you are and the things you are inclined to enjoy and participate in. However, you can change your environment. If you are impulsive and easily distracted, you should make sure your work environment is quiet, calm and distraction free. If not, you will have little motivation to do what your boss tells you, and you could find yourself unemployed.

If you know you love being around people and hate being alone, use that knowledge to stay motivated in the pursuit of some goal. Let’s assume you would like to lose 30 pounds, and you are this type of person. If you ordered meals delivered to your home and watched an exercise program on your computer by yourself, you probably would not reach your target weight. However, if you joined a group in your local area that was filled with people just like yourself, people trying to lose weight while being social, it is almost a certainty you would reach your goal.

You know who you are. You know those things that you are going to do, and those things that you have a very small chance of doing. Match your goals to your personality traits when you create them, and you may see yourself beginning to achieve things you never have before.

Intrinsic vs. Extrinsic Motivation

Did you know your failure to succeed in some endeavor may be because you are using the wrong type of motivation? In the last section, you learned that your personality can affect how you respond to certain types of motivation. Your success or failure as far as goal achievement is concerned may also boil down to what type of motivation is working on you.

Extrinsic motivation means you are being moved to action by some external source. A boss may give you a deadline, or some other demand or obligation may be forced on you.

Intrinsic motivation is internal. You are trying to achieve a particular goal because of a personal desire or hope.

We all need to achieve goals from time to time that we do not set for ourselves. If you did not live up to your boss’s expectations regularly, you wouldn’t have a job. One way to meet external goals and deadlines is to fuel them with intrinsic motivation. In the example above, a boss gives you a deadline which is going to be difficult to meet. You have been given extrinsic motivation, and this doesn’t always work well with a lot of people.

However, you can create intrinsic motivational thoughts that help you achieve that goal you did not set for yourself. Being able to pay your bills is some really important intrinsic motivation. Apply this to your boss’ deadline, and all of a sudden that goal becomes personal, and you increase the odds you will actually achieve it.

9 Ways to Motivate Yourself to Achieve Your Goals

When dealing with topics like motivation and avoiding procrastination, the same methods don’t work for everyone. That’s why we have listed 9 different ways to keep your motivation cranked up below, so goal achievement is virtually guaranteed.

1 – Make a Mental Picture of Your Achievement

Visualization is a daily exercise that can help you achieve any goal. It is what the highest achievers in business, sports, entertainment, politics and other fields use to achieve the results they desire. Visualize your life after your goal has been achieved. Do this regularly, upon rising and before going to bed, and you set your subconscious to the task of helping you reach your goal.

2 – Say “When”, Not “If”

Be self-assured. Don’t tell yourself, “If I get that raise …” Talk to yourself about, “When I get that raise …” Mindset is everything in so many areas of life, and having a positive mindset rather than a doubtful attitude towards goal achievement is extremely important for your success.

3 – Write Down Your Goals

Have you heard about the Harvard goal achievement study? Harvard MBA students were asked if they had goals and if they were written down. Only 3% had written down their goals on paper. Another 84% had no specific goal, and 13% had goals that were not written down. Ten years later, the participants were contacted again. The 3% that had written their goals down so they could constantly use them for motivation had achieved 10 times more wealth than the other 97%!

4 – Set Your Own Unique Goals

You will almost certainly guarantee failure if you chase a goal someone else set for you. Think hard and long about the things that are truly important to you, and then craft a unique and personally tailored goal to chase.

5 – Use an Affirmation

Tell yourself every day, in the present tense, that what you are doing is moving you closer to goal achievement. Say, “I am taking small but consistent steps on a daily basis, and because of this, I am getting closer to my goal of (list your goal)”. Tweak that affirmation so it applies to your situation.

6 – Hang Around with the Right Type of People

There is a reason that people who listen to motivational tapes and watch videos on goal achievement realize more success than others. They are virtually “hanging around” with energetic, enthusiastic and motivated individuals that constantly keep them heading in the right direction. The people you spend time with on a regular basis, your friends and family members, should also be positive minded, energetic and encouraging.

7 – Remove Clutter, Virtual and Physical

People think of clutter as a physical thing. Look around your surroundings right now, and you may see things that distract your attention, physical objects and items which you can remove from the immediate area. Clutter is also virtual, unnecessary noise and sounds, aromas and digital input. Removing clutter helps you focus, which makes staying motivated to pursue a goal much easier.

8 – Take a Lesson from Shakespeare’s Hamlet

In Act III of Hamlet, the great William Shakespeare tells us to, “Assume a virtue, if you have it not.” Whatever your goal is, act is if you have already achieved it. Act and dress and behave in a manner that is consistent with someone who has reached the goal you are chasing. Acting “as if” you have achieved your heart’s desire has an odd way of moving you closer to it.

9 – Motivate Yourself by Looking at Your Current Reality

If you hate your job, despise where you live, have no significant healthy relationships and are constantly sick and unhealthy, embrace that reality. Those situations can provide extreme motivation to do something about your life. Instead of simply accepting that as your reality, use your present situation to create a list of action steps that moves you to a happier existence.

How to Create More Time to Get Things Done Every Day

The following tips are easy to implement, and they can help you realize more free time to spend doing the things that are important to you.

Prioritize. Complete your biggest and most difficult task first.
Wake up 1 hour earlier each day.
Each night before you go to bed, create a to-do list for the next day.
Focus on one task or responsibility at a time.
Learn to say no to people who take advantage of you, always asking for favors.
Clear your work area of visual, auditory and physical clutter.
Delegate or outsource tasks you shouldn’t be wasting your time doing.
Stop wasting time on guilt. If you fail or stumble, as mentioned earlier, brush yourself off and climb back in the saddle.
Get plenty of rest every night.

Stop striving for perfection, it doesn’t exist. For some tasks, good enough is good enough.

Enjoy a digital detox. Set daily, weekly and monthly limits for staring at your smart phone and checking in on Facebook.

Make quick decisions. Give yourself 30 or 60 seconds to come to a decision, because analysis paralysis can kill productivity.

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Written By: docmac - Nov• 05•17

Living With A Seal

How To Live A Healthy Lifestyle When You Are Too Busy

Written By: docmac - Oct• 20•17

How To Live A Healthy Lifestyle When You Are Too Busy

Most of us know that living a healthy lifestyle isn’t the easiest thing to do, and the sad truth is that many of us simply feel just too busy in life to implement any healthy changes.
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It’s not necessarily that you don’t have the motivation or you don’t want to have a better lifestyle – it’s simply that you don’t feel you have the time to make the required changes in order to turn your lifestyle around (because, yes, it does take time and mental energy to make positive changes!)

 

 But you CAN turn things around if you change your mindset and the way you’re going about things.
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Here’s how…
1) Make small changes
You don’t have to completely revamp your lifestyle overnight.
In fact, with your current work schedule and other things going on, you may never be able to achieve your ideal lifestyle.
It’s important to remember that you don’t have to become one of those people who goes to the gym at 5am every morning and manages to drink enough water throughout the day.
Start with simple changes, such as eating a healthier breakfast or taking the stairs up to the office. Smaller really is better than nothing, honestly!
2) Find a buddy
Rather than trying to make a change on your own, find somebody to do it with you. This could be your partner, your best friend, a neighbor or the entire family.
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When you are all making lifestyle changes together, it’s not only easier to stick to it, but also to get the support that you need during tough times.
3) Remember it’s not just about physical health
Living a healthier lifestyle isn’t just all about losing weight, exercising more and eating better foods.
It’s also about your mental health, so you can think about ways in which to improve this too. Spend an hour just once a week after work to meditate, have a drink with some friends or even attend talking therapy sessions if you feel you have things to offload throughout the week. Still feel too busy?
Well this is exactly why you need this time out. Everyone can prioritize 10 minutes a day for some quiet time, and you really must if you’re feeling frazzled.
The rest will follow.
4) If you don’t succeed, try again!
Starting a new diet on Monday might seem like a great idea, but if you’re feeling like giving up by the time you get to Wednesday, don’t worry about it.
Allow yourself time to ease into a healthier lifestyle, and be patient with yourself too. And, if you fall off the wagon, just put it behind you, get back up and start again.
A healthy lifestyle is something that you should be able to keep for the rest of your life – it’s not a short term fix.

Are You Ready To Learn How To Boost Your Confidence

Written By: docmac - Oct• 07•17

Learn How to Boost Your Confidence Level

Self-confidence is an individual’s ability to be able to express thoughts and actions with self-conviction and assurance. You may wonder why there are people who are able to perform and project something without so much hesitation. Well, they just have the right level of confidence.

Confidence is neither inborn nor hereditary, meaning it can be acquired and learned by anyone. People who lack the said ability tend to easily shy away from even a small crowd, they tend to underperform in their jobs and assigned tasks, or they do not speak their minds. But anyone can achieve a certain level of confidence with gradual exposure to people and situations.confidence

Expose Yourself

An effective way to build self-confidence easily is to immerse yourself in various activities. Whether you belong to an academic organization, working for a company, member of a club or association, expose yourself whenever there is a chance.

You may want to join programs and be given a specific role or assignment to work on. If you got talent such as singing or dancing, do not keep it to yourself. Let everyone know that you have the skill. With that, you will receive praises and acknowledgements which will help you boost confidence.

Get yourself involved in different activities and programs in your organization or community and notice your confidence level increase.

Be Presentable All the Time

Projecting a presentable look all the time is a sure way to boost confidence level. Learn how to dress up properly and neatly so you will look good and pleasant.

Always remember to dress up to please yourself and not other people, so do not be too conscious of what to wear, but of course, always dress up according to the occasion. Avoid casual attire in a corporate office. Be in formal or semi-formal attire when attending special occasions.

You will not only look good with proper and comfortable clothing, you will also feel good about yourself. Then, people will admire you for being constantly presentable.

Learn to Face Your Fears

Personal fears hinder some people to come out of their shell. They are scared of making mistakes for fear of being criticized so they would rather stay in one corner.

Everyone has their own fears and unless these are conquered, confidence will be hard to attain. The way to face your fears is to indulge in it. For example, if your fear is public speaking, get over it by volunteering to speak before a crowd.

If your fear is socializing with different people, start joining events and occasions especially if there are invitations from friends. Unless you act on your fear, it will remain as that and it will bring down your self-esteem.

You will realize that you have built a good level of self-confidence because you will experience the transformation in you. And when you look back on how you were before, you will only tell yourself that you were right after all in believing that you can do the things you thought you would not be able to do.

6 Ways To Have More Laughter In Your Life

Written By: docmac - Oct• 07•17

6 Ways To Have More Laughter In Your Life

There are many things in life that we must be serious about. Although it is good to stay focused on the important things, we should also make time to simply have a good laugh. Laughing burns calories, bonds you to your loved ones, and relieves stress. What more could you want in an activity that is so fun and refreshing? Here are six ideas on ways to add laughter to your everyday life.

1. Go to Karaoke Night

Whether or not you can sing, attend a karaoke night at a local pub. If you can sing, it will be fun and you will surely get a few moments of laughter. If you are a terrible singer, even better. Openly mock yourself. Quietly find humor in the others whose voices are not their strong point either. There are always a few.

2. Watch a Funny Movie

Sometimes all it takes to de-stress is to watch someone else being funny. Put on a good comedy. Choose one with your favorite silly actors, and enjoy. You can also find funny short movies on YouTube.

3. Make a Prank Call

This is only applicable to a close friend, of course, but if you want to have a really good laugh… make a prank call. If you have been blessed with the ability to disguise your voice, call your friend up and act as though you are an obnoxious salesman. As immature as this sounds, you and your friend will both probably get a laugh out of the ordeal that you will never forget.

4. Play a Practical Joke

Another one to use on a good friend who shares your sense of humor… playing a practical joke tops the list of easy laughs. Whether you choose to set several hidden alarm clocks in their room, or switch the salt and sugar temporarily, give them a reason to remember you. Other ideas include dropping a fake spider over their shoulder, changing their cell phone setting to a foreign language, or placing bubble wrap in between their toilet bowl and the toilet seat when you visit their home.

5. Ask Your Children to Make Some Jokes

If you have little ones, or friends with little ones, ask them to be the comedian for the evening. Sometimes children say the funniest things. Even when their jokes fall flat, there is something humorous about a little one trying to get a laugh out of the adults.

6. Find Humor When There Seems to Be None

One of the most important things to do is to search for the humorous moments. When you lock yourself out of your car, remember what a funny story it will be in the future, and start to point out the funny details to yourself and your family. When things seem to be going wrong, think of an interesting and hilarious way to tell your story to someone at a later time. This can change a stressful moment into a great one in an instant.

There are many ways to add laughter to your life. Use these ideas as a springboard to your own list of raucous laugh-inducers. You will feel your stress melt away as the laughs increase on a daily basis.

Most of us have fallen for the green-eyed monster at some time in our lives. We will talk about how to deal with jealousy next time.

 

 

Investing In You

Written By: docmac - Oct• 07•17

Investing In You

If you are not investing in personal development, you may be limiting your true potential. Personal development affects your entire life, not just your work life or your personal life.

It’s amazing how many people don’t try to improve themselves. These are the same people that wonder why they are not getting anywhere with their lives.

You want to use some guidelines to help you which are as follows:

Imagine How You Want to Shape Your Life

Without a vision, you won’t be able to determine what kind of life you want to live. You need to balance what kinds of changes you want professionally as well as personally. The two will ultimately overlap.

If you imagine yourself being more helpful to others, this trait will become part of both. There may be certain aspects of your personal development that you believe are specific to personal life but may eventually carry over to your professional life.

If you have wanted to increase your skills as a community leader, this could easily be incorporated into your professional career. The key is to identify and imagine what this new skill is going to look like.

Assess Your Current Situation

Before you make any changes in your life, determine where you stand with your life as it currently exists. Determine strengths and weaknesses to help you formulate a plan to make the necessary changes.

Set Goals

Once you know what your strengths and weaknesses are, create some goals to strive to complete. These should include high level goals as well as action steps. Most important, set milestones with firm dates for these action steps.

Consider Alternatives

There can be valid reasons why certain actions or goals can’t be met. Instead of abandoning the entire personal development plan, come up with alternatives steps. Be careful not to simply fall back on these steps because they are easier than the main goals.

Evaluate How You Are Doing

When you reach a milestone, see how you did against the plan of action steps. This is a crucial step, and it’s important to be realistic and truthful. The best way to handle this is to have someone else perform this for you. It may not be easy to hear, but the benefits will be well worth it.

Keep it Simple

If you add a bunch of unobtainable goals to your plan, you are likely setting yourself up for failure.

This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try to push yourself. It just means being realistic about your capabilities.

Focus And Productivity

Written By: docmac - Oct• 04•17

Focus and Productivity

In our lives today, we are busier than ever before. We think technology has streamlined many tasks, but instead we are given more tools that give us more and more to do with less time to do it. We are stressed and overwhelmed.

The phrase “time management” has become taboo, since it implies there are different ways to cram even more into our already overflowing lives.

We have been lead to believe that if we don’t multitask every minute of our day we will not be productive. This can’t be farther from the truth. Successful people have long realized that focus is the key to being productive.

Most of what we say and do is not essential. If you can eliminate it, you’ll have more time, and more tranquility. Ask yourself at every moment, ‘Is this necessary?’ ~Marcus Aurelius

Increasing your focus means you should get up each day, looking forward to what you can achieve. Being focused means you are making progress towards what is most important to you. You will feel a greater sense of productivity and fulfillment.

Learn why focus is important in both your personal and professional life in the following pages. You’ll learn tips and strategies on gaining and keeping your focus so you can be productive in everything you do. Multitasking is one of the most overrated skills people claim to have.

In this report you’ll find out why you shouldn’t be multitasking, and what to do instead.
Let’s get started.

Why focus is important

Why is being focused so important in today’s world? What results happen when you are focused? Does being focused make you less stress?

Happier? If it’s so important, why don’t people focus more?

Being focused on one thing for a certain period of time allows you to do a better quality of work, more work gets done quicker, and your creative ideas flow easier. Being focused on one task at a time is less stressful on your mind. And being less stressed allows you be happier.

It’s difficult for people to remain focused on one task for a variety of reasons. For one, we live in a world where we are constantly bombarded with TV, radio, cell phones, Internet social media, as well as a much larger population that lives closer together than ever before.

It’s difficult to get completely away from all these distractions. One way is to go to a room where you can shut your door and turn off your phone and email notifications.

When you focus on a single task, avoiding distractions, your brain becomes focused on that task alone. This lets you complete that task much more quickly than if you are trying to complete two or more tasks at once. For instance, let’s say you need to write a blog post, do your bookkeeping for the week and research information for an upcoming speech.

The best thing to do is to set aside all but one task.

So, for this example, you want to give all your attention writing your blog post. That means turning off the TV, cell phones, social media pings, closing your door and putting all your attention on writing.

By giving all your attention to the task without distraction, you can get it done much more quickly and with fewer mistakes. Your work will be higher quality as well. Another benefit to being focused is that your creativity will kick in too. You’ll come up with new ideas associated with the task at hand.

This is great if you are someone who creates in some way. This includes traditional creative types like artists, writers, photographers, designers and musicians, as well as people who create products or services, teachers, researchers, stay-at-home parents, executives, bloggers, and anyone who needs ideas. This means just about everyone can benefit.

Being constantly connected to others and having many distractions that take away your focus can affect your stress levels as well as your productivity. When you aren’t focused, you don’t get as much done as you could if you were truly focused on the task you’re doing.

Focusing on one thing for a certain period of time helps you think better. Having your mind scattered over several tasks at once keeps you from thinking about what you are actually doing. You only have time to complete a task quickly before you must move on to the next one.

All the while you are trying to remember everything that has to be done. When you focus, you are able to think about only one thing for that period of time.

Focusing allows your subconscious to do the work. Think about when you learned to ride a bike or drive a car. It was difficult in the beginning, but when you began focusing on what you were doing, your subconscious took over and helped you learn. The same is true in your everyday tasks. Once you begin focusing solely on one task, your subconscious helps you do them quicker and easier.
It’s important to focus on one task at a time to become more productive, do better quality work and be less stressed. Focusing can help you be more creative and have more happiness.

Multitasking is overrated

If you’re like many people you spend most days multitasking. You’re probably so used to multitasking that you don’t even realize when you’re doing it. After all, it’s a skill many employers look for in their employees.

Many people believe multitasking saves them time. There are many reasons why multitasking is bad. It’s better to focus instead though. Focusing lets you concentrate on one task or thought at a time, helping you create a better result for each task.

Many people like to multitask because they become bored working on one task at a time.

Why is multitasking bad?

You have to switch from task to task. This takes time for your mind to change into the right mindset for the new task.

You have to take the time to remember where you left off.

1. Multitasking leads to attention and memory loss. According to a study by Harvard Professor Clifford Nass, in findings published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Science, people who use online social media and other forms of electronic communications have trouble focusing their attention and have lower scores on memory tests.

2. Cognitive performance is diminished. A recent study by Zheng Wang, a professor at Ohio State University, showed that multitasking caused students to feel more productive, but showed they were actually reducing their cognitive skills abilities such as studying.

3. It turns people off when you are interacting with them. People who multitask often find themselves coming in contact with others. If you only half pay attention to them, answering texts and phone calls while talking to them, you will lose their respect.

4. Multitaskers lose productivity. Switching between tasks is counter-productive. You lose time and concentration every time you switch to a different task.

5. Multitaskers are less likely to finish one quality project. They may finish all their tasks for the day, but they will most likely be sub-par than if they had focused solely on one to completion.

Multitasking makes it difficult to focus entirely on each task you are doing. You are thinking about emails you have to respond to when writing a report and the phone calls you need to return even while you are thinking about the next task on your to-do list. This type of working environment doesn’t do anything but cause you stress. Instead of multitasking among several tasks, you should prioritize your tasks and break them up into workable time chunks.

Tips to improve focus.

Maybe you want to focus on a single task, but find yourself easily distracted. You find it difficult to focus on what you are doing because you find your mind wandering, you’re worrying about everything or maybe you just have way too many things you need to do to make a choice of just one task to start with.

Here are some valuable tips on how to improve focus.

Meditate.

Try to allocate at least 30 minutes each day to meditate. If you can’t dedicate that much time you can still do a short breathing exercise.

Focus on your breathing, really focusing on the air, how it touches your nostrils and enters your lips. How does it feel as it escapes? Your mind may wander, filling with endless amount of thoughts. When this happens bring your thoughts back to focusing on your breathing. Continue this process for several minutes.

Regulating your breathing relaxes your circulatory system and brings you a sense of peace.

Listen.

Listen to music to help improve your focus. Really concentrate on the music. Try to focus on a single instrument.

Cut goals into small targets.

Having an end goal in mind while working on the tasks to achieve it can frustrate you because you target goal might be too big or difficult. Your results won’t be quick, and it may seem like you aren’t getting any closer to the end. Instead of working toward the ultimate end goal, break it down into smaller, more achievable goals you can reach within a few days. Then cross each smaller goal off your list as you achieve it.

Time clock.

Work within your body’s most comfortable time period. Maybe you work best early in the morning before sunrise. Or late at night. Work when you are most productive. For example many authors get up early to do their writing, while artists often do their best work late at night.

Light meals.

Have you ever eaten a big meal for lunch when working only to feel lethargic and weighed down all afternoon? Eating a heavy meal slows you down and makes you sleepy. If you need or want to, you can go on a small juice fast on a regular basis. It will keep you alert and help keep your body in good physical condition.

Exercise

Exercise your mind and body every day. Do crossword puzzles. Engage in lively discussions. Build something that’s creative. A simple 30 minute walk every day is all you need to keep your body healthy.

Force yourself.

You may need to push yourself some when you’re feeling lazy. If you are hitting a mental roadblock, though, take some time away from the task. Do something else until you can regain your focus on the original task.

Learning to improve you focus will take time but it is worth it. Begin by implementing one or two of these tips into your day to begin changing how well you can become focused.

Strategies to Improve Focus

You’d be surprised by how many people lose track of where their time goes. They might think they are focused on a single task, but are they really? One way to find out is to keep track of how you spend your time for a week. You might find out you’ve been wasting time on little things like checking Facebook once an hour.

Here are my strategies for improving your focus and increasing your productivity:

1. Track your time. Analyze the results after a week. Tweak and get rid of time wasters.

2. Plan your week. At the end of your week, find a quiet spot to plan out your week’s tasks. Write down key projects and the tasks associated with them. Don’t forget to add in family activities that you participate in as well.

3. Prioritize your list. Break down your tasks from most important to least important. Use a calendar to mark out blocks of uninterrupted time (anywhere from 15 to 60 minutes) to work on each one.

4. Eliminate what isn’t essential. Outsource what you can for things you need to do but which aren’t your strengths. This could be anything from mowing your lawn to hiring a virtual assistant to take care of your social media for the week.
5. Set your goals. Break down big or long-term goals into smaller weekly or daily goals to make them easier to focus on.

6. Set aside a specific amount of time each day for checking/answering email and social media. It could be the first 30 minute task of the day, the last 30 minutes of your work day, or maybe the 15 minutes before your lunch break. Only do it once a day though. Don’t be stopping in the middle of a task to check your email. The same goes for social media channels as well.

7. Do away with multitasking. It takes a while to learn how to focus on one project at a time, but stick with it and it will become a habit. Finish one project/task before moving on to the next one. Become laser-focused on one task at a time. This can really increase your productivity.

8. Make a distraction to-do list. The Internet has made it easy for us to become quickly distracted. As soon as we want to look something up, we hop on the Internet to do a search. “I wonder what’s happening on Facebook.” “What was the name of the actor in that movie?” “How long will it take me to drive to the zoo tomorrow?” Anytime we get distracted like this it takes about 25 minutes to get back to the original task. So instead, next time you want to look up something or an idea pops in your head, jot it down on a piece of paper (or, even better, use Evernote).

9. Learn to say NO. If you already have full day’s task list, don’t feel like you have to take on another project for someone else.

10. Create an environment that works for you. Do you need a quiet space, free from people, phones and television noise? Set up your office so it works for you. Decorate it in soothing colors, inspiring artwork and a comfortable chair. If you work best in a neat and clean area, make sure you put away or file papers and magazines. Get rid of clutter. If you focus better while listening to music or some kind of ambient noise, be sure to have a way to make that happen.

11. Take a break when needed. Short breaks help break up boredom and burnout when you’re working on a big project. Get up and walk around the room. Do some yoga stretches.

12. Break up or Chunk it. Break your tasks down into smaller more manageable chunks of time with short breaks in between. For example, work on a task in 15 minute chunks. For example, let’s say you’re writing an eBook. Don’t try to do the whole thing at once. Break it down. Take 15 minutes to write out your outline. Take a short break. Then 15 minutes to research the first chapter. And so on.

13. Use an app on your phone to boost your productivity and concentration. Apps like Evernote can keep you organized and keep track of distractions. An app like Brainwave can be downloaded to your iPhone. In this app, you can choose settings like Concentration Boost and Problem Solving, Brainstorming, or Memory Boost and Creative Thinking.

There are other apps that help you stay focused and productive as well.

The strategies for becoming more focused are endless. Make lists. Remove distractions. Set up your ideal environment. You need to find what works best for your style of working.

Exercises to Improve Focus

When TV newscaster Diane Sawyer was asked the secret to her success, she said, “I think the one lesson I’ve learned is there is no substitute for paying attention.”

Did you know improving your focus can be done with different types of simple exercises? It’s true. Something as simple as getting exercise on a daily basis or chewing gum can improve your brain function, which leads to better focus. Most of the time, focus exercises take less than ten minutes to do.

Check out these to get you started:

Mutter to yourself. It might seem like you’re crazy but talking to yourself either out loud or not, helps you pay attention, calms you emotionally and tells you to act.

Check out the 8 ways to make your brain smarter at:

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Trade your caffeine for cardio. Caffeine gives you a boost, which makes it easier to concentrate. But you might find it harder to focus when you’re not buzzed. A better way to keep your mind stimulated is with physical exercise.

Exercise triggers the release of chemicals in the brain that affect our learning and memory, which in the end are what help us focus.

Drink more water. Mild dehydration can lead to distraction. Being even as little as 2 percent dehydrated can affect your ability to concentrate on cognitive activities.

Get plenty of shut-eye. Getting at least seven hours of good quality sleep each night helps your body and mind rejuvenate and leads to better concentration and focus during the day.

Here are some Concentration exercises taken from the Success Consciousness website.

http://www.successconsciousness.com/index_000004.htm

Exercise 1

Count the words in any paragraph from a book. Count them again. Repeat until it’s easy.

Now count the words in two paragraphs. Repeat until it becomes easy.

Finally count all the words on the page. Count mentally and with your eyes only. Don’t use your finger to point to each word.

Exercise 2
Count from one hundred backwards to one.

Exercise 3
Count backwards from one hundred, by threes, for example 100, 97, 94 and so on.

Exercise 4
Pick an inspiring word or simple sound. Repeat it silently for five minutes. When this becomes easy, try doing it for ten minutes continually.

Exercise 5
Hold a piece of fruit in your hands. Examine it, keeping your entire attention focused on the fruit. Just focus on the fruit, ignoring other thoughts. Examine its shape, the smell of it, how it’s texture when you touch it and how it taste.

Exercise 6
Visualize a piece of fruit. First examine a piece of fruit for 2 minutes. Then close your eyes and visualize how it feels, looks and smells. Try to visualize a clear image. If the image gets blurry, look at the fruit again for a few seconds then close your eyes and try to visualize it again.

It’s never been harder to stay focused than at this time in history. We are distracted by technology and everything happening around us. You can regain focus though by doing different exercises that can help you build your concentration.

How to deal with focus issues

You probably already know how hard it is to focus on something. Focus issues are often the result of different things like boredom, lack of interest or even fatigue. Concentration can often be attributed by how motivated and interested we are in the task.

There are ways to deal with focus issues.

Supplements can help you when you are having focus issues. Vitamins like the B complex group, Biotin or vitamin H and lecithin all help improve your memory.

Eating the right foods can help you better focus as well since you will be getting the supplements from the foods to help with brain health. Foods like lean meat, beans, oranges, peanut butter and oysters.

Consult with your physician if you find you can’t focus on any one thing for any length of time. Lack of focus can be a symptom of several different conditions, including depression. Get a thorough checkup to rule out any physical causes of your lack of focus issues.

When working on projects on your computer and online, make sure you only have tabs open that are relevant to what you are doing. This keeps you from getting distracted by all that fun information floating around the Internet.

Make your tasks routine. Set up a routine for tasks that you do every day. For example, check your email and social media at the same time every day. Just like you probably have a routine when you wake up, you should also have a routine when working.

Separate your day into a time for creating, time for work and communication, and time for yourself. Split the day up in whatever way works best for you.

Dealing with focus issues causes your productivity to drop. By learning how to take care of your focus issues through your diet, exercise and routines, you can be more productive.

Applied Focus

You can increase your productivity and accomplish more in less time by using a technique called applied focus. Applied focus can help you avoid the little distractions that can derail your efforts at productivity.

How applied focus increases productivity

Applied focus is a strategy that helps you multiply your productivity. Each session is 45 minutes long, with a 15 minute shift in focus. Or you can do 90 minutes followed by 30 minute shift in focus. In other words, you stop focusing intentionally on your task and do something completely different in the shift focus period. During the focused session, though, you don’t allow anything to distract you (except a dire emergency). Phone calls are out, email is off, texting and Facebook are off limits.

Here are some guidelines (be sure to adjust them as necessary to fit your individual situation):

1. Open only one browser or application window at a time. So if you’re writing a blog post, only your word processor or text pad is open.

2. Keep your sessions timed. Don’t go past your 45 or 90 minute session, no matter how focused you are. You need the break.

3. Get away from your task. Get up from your desk, walk around, get a drink or snack. Give your mind a break.

4. Be prepared ahead of time. Do your research during a different applied focus session then from the writing session. That way you’re able to concentrate on the writing alone.

5. Have a session set up for email, telephone and social media time.
Applied focus sessions can increase your productivity but it will take some getting used to. Start slowly by scheduling one or two sessions a day. Once you become used to the routine, you will notice an improvement in your concentration and productivity.

What’s next?

Learning how to focus on one task at a time takes time and commitment. In our busy lives we are pulled in many directions at one time. It’s best to begin your journey on a more focused life gradually by implementing the tips and strategies found within this report.

Focus is such an important part of how productive you are. If you can focus on one task for a set amount of time you will be more productive in a shorter amount of time than you have been. Putting aside your tendency to multitask will improve your productivity as well, since you will be able to finish one task before you move on.

Removing distractions can help you focus as well. Create an environment that you feel comfortable in, and that fits with how you work. If you’re a morning person, then focus on your work tasks, and vice versa for night owls.

Eat healthy and nutritious foods to keep your brain strong and able to concentrate. Exercise daily, meditate daily and take time to enjoy nature and your family.

Quit Faking Happiness

Written By: docmac - Oct• 01•17

Quit Faking Happiness and Learn How to Live Authentically

Many people are content with the lives that they lead on the surface, but deep down, crave something totally different. The most common excuse is that “they could have it worse, so there’s no point in complaining.”livingauthentically

The truth is, someone is always going to have a worse life, but stop worrying about them, and worry about yourself. You can’t wake up each day dreading your boring or unfulfilling life, only to say each morning that someone in a developing country has a worse life than you, so you have to be content with the life you lead.

You have to be happy by your own standards. If you’re not happy working 9 to 5 at your office job, then make a change in your life. If you want freedom from a corporate job and want to start your own online business, go for it!

Don’t settle for a mediocre lifestyle and pardon it just because “things could be worse.” Of course things could be worse. You could be homeless, crippled, starving, and tons of other unfortunate things. Don’t let that stop you from doing what you dream of – always strive for the best of the best.

Become that person you always daydream of being, because it’s attainable.

 

The only thing holding you back from achieving these dreams is yourself.

The people around you can’t control who you are or what you find happiness in doing.

You have to set your own goals and, more importantly, strive to achieve them. By feigning happiness, you’re barely fooling the people around you, but you can never fool yourself.

You’ll always have that feeling that you’re not content, or that you wish you were somewhere else in life. Everyone else might think you’re pretty happy doing what you’re doing, but you know the truth.

Even some of the people closer to you might see through your façade and realize that you’re feeling stuck. If you let it be known that you’re looking for change in your life, those opportunities are more likely to present themselves.

The most important part of living a wholesome life is knowing what you want out of this world. Don’t try to convince yourself that stocking shelves at a grocery store is what you want.

If you want to see every corner of the world, you should strive to accomplish that, because at the end of the day, you’ll feel much more accomplished than you would living your typical, everyday life that helps make ends meet, but doesn’t do anything to contribute toward your personal satisfaction.

When you finally accomplish whatever goal you’re working towards, you can tell people that you’re happy and actually feel that way deep down. It will be refreshing to be truthful about your life.

 

Live Life On Your Own Terms By Getting Out Of Your Comfort Zone

Written By: docmac - Oct• 01•17

Many people today dream of living life on their own terms, because they want the freedom of being able to do whatever they want. However, they don’t really know what it means to live life on your own terms.

Living life on your own terms means that you aren’t afraid of confrontation, and you’ll always put your own best interests first. If it doesn’t benefit you, you’re not going to like it, and you’ll do whatever you can to avoid it.

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You are not afraid of building a business online or offline if that is your passion. You pick your business model and are not afraid to say no to anything that does not capture your interest.

You have to be willing to live life on your own terms if you hope to find personal satisfaction in life. If you do not take control you will end up someones doormat all of your life.

By living on your own terms, you not only discover what you find most important in life, but you also maintain a constant feeling of satisfaction and happiness. You’ll also figure out who’s working against you in your life and who you need to stop associating with.

However, there are a few negatives to living life on your own terms.

By choosing to live your life as you see fit, you’ll discover that it’s a very different life than most people lead you to believe.

Many people are used to trying to help others more than they help themselves, so this will be a very harsh change of pace for them. You’ll have to get used to saying no to things you don’t want to do, where in the past, you’d simply put up with it.

These changes will take some time to make, but you’ll find that it’s well worth it when you’re finally used to it. By picking and choosing how you live each day, you open up many more paths for personal satisfaction and happiness.

You block out most negativity in your life, and only live for the things you truly enjoy and love. By blocking out negativity, there will be very little left in your way to your goals, and the stuff that’s still blocking you will be easily overcome with the right attitude.

If you want to achieve happiness in life eliminate the negative people in your life, hang on to your true loyal friends and start living life on your terms.